‘Delicious Ambiguity’

superhero-pinup1I don’t think I could love two words more than “delicious ambiguity”.  Oh, sure “free chocolate” might give it a run for its money.  And “Daniel Craig called” is technically three words so that doesn’t count.

One of my friends of whom I completely adore because he just gets it, sent me this quote yesterday.  Take a breath and savor it, because it’s meaning is so important.

“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.” — Gilda Radner

I don’t know about you but sometimes I think I can hold up the entire universe by nothing short of sheer will.  And that’s typically the time when my entire life goes in the toilet.  When I let go and stop trying to control every little moment and every single tomorrow and every single outcome is when I begin to have all that joy and magic in my life.  My life works best when I stop trying to make everything happen.

Gilda Radner, for those of you who don’t know her, was an actress and comedienne and one of the original cast members of Saturday Night Live.  She lost a battle with Ovarian cancer at the very young age only 42.  Which, yes, is depressing as hell.  But I believe it brings even more weight and power to her words.

The truth is, we don’t know.  We don’t know how long we have.  We don’t know have perfect little lives that fit neatly in a box with a big shiny bow.  And the only constant in our lives is change.  And oh how I hate change.  But mostly because I hate letting go.

And that’s where we take her lesson.  The joy is in the not knowing.  It’s exploring every new little corner and detail and not being afraid of unfamiliar territory.  We can be brave and muster up the courage to jump into something without having it all figured out. We can experiment and try new things.  If it doesn’t work. Well, damn then. It doesn’t work. Then we try something else.

The “not knowing” is the gift.  Making the most of the moment we have been given is the key.  We have to find joy in the moments. Yes, the proverbial stop and smell the flowers, but it’s true.

Why do we walk so cautiously about waiting for every little step to be illuminated when we can dance and skip into the great unknown with confidence?  What is it you really want to do but you don’t because you can’t “see” how it will work.  Or you don’t try because it may be you having to relinquish control.

One of my very all time favorite people to have walked this earth is Corrie Ten Boom. I’ll save her story for a whole other blog.  But she once wrote “Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.”  

So go!

Take risks. Take a leap. Follow your heart with reckless abandon into the great unknown.  It’s going to be lots of little gifts if you are paying attention and letting go of that need to know.

Life is fast.  The older you get the more you know that.  And it’s certainly too short to be worried about perfection.

Ah, delicious ambiguity.  Beautiful, delicious, ambiguity.

It’s time we make the most…

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