Thoughts on things you should never worry about.
Here is a list of things you should quit worrying about immediately because it just DOESN’T MATTER.
It doesn’t matter what people think of you.
As a friendly reminder, it’s none of your business what someone thinks of you. And a friendlier reminder that you have no control over choosing what they think. You can’t “make” someone like you, love you, approve of you, not judge you, etc. You DO have the choice however to be your beautifully authentic self, without apology. If someone doesn’t understand that, then leave them to their small minds and their small ways. We are empowered when we empower ourselves not when an outside source validates us.
It doesn’t matter what your scale says.
Your weight doesn’t determine your value, although Hollywood would very much like you to believe that. According to U.S. News and World Report, Americans spend north of $60 billion annually to try to lose weight. If you need to lose weight and are working toward that goal, good for you. But remember your value at your starting weight will be exactly the same at your ending weight.
It doesn’t matter what your bank account says.
Your landlord may care what your bank account says, but if you think having money or the lack thereof makes you more or less important, then honey, I’ve got news for you. It DOESN’T MATTER. I’ve known people with millions and I’ve known people with pennies. Their value to me was no different and neither was their happiness levels. I’m not saying it wouldn’t be fun to have a bazillion dollars, but have you ever seen the stories of people with untold wealth living the crappiest, most unhappy life? Their money didn’t magically make them happy. On the flip side, I know people with next to nothing who are living their best life. Happiness is found right where you’re at.
It doesn’t matter if people leave you.
I know you’re thinking WHOA, WHOA, WHOA THERE, BODACIOUS BETTY! But, hear me out. In the course of your life, people will come and people will go. It will be for many different reasons. You may have behaved badly and you were unable to make amends. They may have behaved badly and you were unable to reach a place of forgiveness or trust again. Or maybe, just maybe, there was no reason at all and the person chose to leave your life. Some of the very best advice I’ve ever received in my life was this. If someone wants to leave your life, let them. It doesn’t mean it’s easy and it doesn’t mean you won’t grieve deeply over the change. But, you should never have to beg or chase someone to be in your life. If they aren’t making an effort to remain in your life then, let them go. What is meant to be in your life will be.
Your age doesn’t matter.
I used to be told I was too young for stuff. Now, I’m being told I’m too old. Um, so where exactly is the perfect age? Oh yeah, there isn’t one. Age is subjective. You are never too young or too old or too in the middle to do amazing things with your life. I’m a Gen-Xer, so I’ve been around a little while. And when I was growing up, I remember my mom reading Judith Krantz books. In an article this week, I saw that Judith Krantz had passed away at the age of 91. During her career she sold more than 85 million copies in more than 50 languages! But, the thing I didn’t know was that her first book wasn’t published until she turned 50 and it immediately topped the NY Times Best Seller List. How cool is that? You do you at whatever age you are at and let the haters hate. They’re going do it anyway.
Your relationship status doesn’t matter.
I am Bridget Jones. (Only the first movie though.) I can’t tell you how often I quote that movie–as you already know if you’ve read this blog for any amount of time. This sarcastic response is one of my all-time favorites to employ on the daily when asked about my relationship status.
Then it was “why so many in their forties?” Then it was “why so many in their fifties?” To which point I say, shut it! I’m not married. Quit asking. So I’m just assuming that since I’m covered in scales, that’s the problem. In all truthfulness, I am in a great relationship and have been for four years now. But even with that, people will still treat me like there’s something wrong with me. The worst part is, sometimes I treat me like there’s something wrong with me.
But here’s the good part. Married, single, whatever I may be, I know I will be happy. Because I choose happiness where I am and what people think about my relationship status–all together now–DOESN’T MATTER. I happen to like me exactly as I am. Oh….wait…
Ok, I’ll stop Bridget Jonesing you. Just don’t worry so much about being single or married, just be happy and choose that regardless of your ring finger.
That’s my best advice on a few things that you shouldn’t worry about. I’m sure the list is infinite of things that we do choose to worry about. So no matter what it is, let it go. Focus on the good, the happy, and the things within your control. Because that’s what really matters.